You are not too bright. In light of the recent child abuse allegations against himself, Minnesota Viking’s RB Adrian Peterson in a statement said that he regrets the “unintentional” injury caused to his four-year-old son.
There is so much wrong with this. First, has anyone seen the pictures? This man didn’t just spank his kid one time; he whipped him with a switch numerous times to the point of bleeding. The pictures that have surfaced online were taken about a week after the beating. He injured the boy’s private parts. What is “unintentional” about this? Let’s be real – he meant to hurt the child.
Also, what could have a four-year-old have done to warrant this punishment? Absolutely nothing.
I’ve been told that I couldn’t possibly understand, as someone who was spanked just once (for doing something dangerous as a toddler). Even though I was told my upbringing was “soft,” I turned out reasonably well. Many have said that I shouldn’t judge how one parent choose to punish his child. I’ve been told that this method of discipline works.
As somebody who will soon be a parent, I believe in correcting bad behavior, but there is a way. You don’t hit a child for having a smart mouth (whatever happened to soap) or for being poorly behaved in school (and AP went beyond spanking when you have to do it that many times). One bad interaction can damage a child’s psyche for life. As the wise Dr. Phil says, “it takes 10,000 atta boys to erase one ‘you’re an idiot'” or other abusive encounter. This article here pretty well sums it up.
If my child behaves poorly, I would take away privileges. I see hitting as a control method for the parent having to assert dominance over the child. You are the parent – you should be in control and setting an example.
As a side note: Adrian Peterson had a child beaten to death last year at the hands of another man. You would think this guy would be sensitive to the subject of child abuse.
While we continue to beat the dead horse that is Ray Rice, people justify AP’s behavior as a man trying to discipline his son. I’ve heard so many “everybody does it” quotes from the media. Just because everybody does it doesn’t make it right. Just because it was what happened to you doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do better for your children (blog upcoming).
That’s why I applaud Cris Carter. The former Vikings WR said his mother employed a similar style of discipline and while she did the best she could, she was wrong. He also promised that he would never treat his children that way. Good for him!
In the last couple of days, it has come out that there was another child abuse allegation against Peterson in June 2013. His other four-year-old son sustained a gash on his head. While charges were never filed in this case, Peterson admitted that the injury occurred during a “whooping” and that the boy was being punished for saying a bad word. Just because you are capable of making a child doesn’t mean you should have one.